You can never make someone feel a certain way, and you can never heal someone else. So take that responsibility off of your shoulders.
We are ALL responsible for ourselves: the way we feel and the way we heal. All anyone can ever do is hold a level of energy, which has the potential to stimulate a reaction within you, but that decision is yours.
For example: Regardless of if someone is screaming at you, you can totally feel at peace in the midst of chaos. Because, ultimately, YOU'RE in charge of how you feel. If you're uncomfortable with how someone else is acting around you or towards you, ask yourself why. If it didn't, in some way, resonate with you, then it wouldn't bother you...you wouldn't even notice it if it wasn't part of your unique view of reality.
- If you're in love with someone else, you're in love with their reflection of the love you have for yourself. People reflect back to you what's inside of you. So if someone "doesn't love you", how are you not fully loving yourself? No one has power over you. No one can actually break your heart; they break your expectations. And you're in charge of what those expectations entail.
- If someone heals, it has nothing to do with you...only the energy you reflected back to them, reminding them of how to do it. If someone doesn't heal, that's a perfectly valid choice for their life path. It still has nothing to do with you.
- Remember that nothing is outside of you. You are whole. You are complete. Your perception is up to you...and your reality of the world around you is a direct reflection of what's going on within you. You have all of the power.
So let go of responsibility for others, and step into taking care of yourself. At the end of the day, that's a better reflection.